Taxi Love in China

My misconception when I first arrived here was that Chinese women were so up tight and they would never engage in public “lewd acts.” How wrong I was…

I have had my girlfriend for 3 months and the public displays of affection are totally different in terms of China and the US. In the US I was able to put my hand in the back pocket of her jeans and squeeze her butt with no problem. In China the most I will get in terms of PDA is probably handholding and maybe a peck on the lips.

Last week I was at a bar with my girlfriend and because she had work early in the morning she wanted to get home at a reasonable time. This meant I had to drink as much as I could quickly! Around midnight she was ready to leave and being the gentlemen that I am, I accompanied her back to her apartment.

In the taxi I was suddenly feeling the affects of the alcohol and had the sudden urge to have sex in a public place aka the taxi backseat. (When I get drunk I have no fear and try to push the limits as much as possible.)

I asked her if she was willing to have sex in the taxi but she bluntly refused me. Then I asked her if she would give me head and she smirked and began laughing. As soon as I saw the smile I knew she was considering it. I didn’t even say another word….I just pulled out my “ji ba” and she knew what to do.

Although I didn’t have actual sex, this was still a small step in breaking the barriers of the no-public sex stigma in China. Before I arrived here and got to know the people, I would have never guessed that Chinese girls would engage in a public sexual act. Obviously China is a modernizing country, but it is still a repressed sexual society…porn is illegal here!

The whole ride back to the apartment I was just staring out the window soaking up the moment. Chinese character neon signs whizzing by, the mishmash of BMW’s and bicycles on the road, and a beautiful girl going down on me.

Is public sex something anyone else has experienced or is this just new to me?

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I want someone to write a rap song like that about Asian girls.

Drunk Midget Humping…Only in China?

So it has been quite a long time since the blog has been updated and we apologize for the delay. However in the time that we have not posted there have been some very interesting events that have gone down.

Most notably was one that occurred just the other night. My good friend Tommy had 2 friends visiting him from Scotland. This was going to be the first trip for these Scottish fellows and Tommy wanted them to have a proper first evening in China.

Naturally we go out for Chinese BBQ, which of course included an all you can drink buffet. I’m not sure if it was the jetlag because I naturally assume that Scottish men can drink quite a bit, but these 2 guys just got totally wasted.

After dinner we decided the night would not be complete without a visit to a very local club that has very few foreigners. When we arrived at the club, the 2 young lads were puking in the bushes and falling all over themselves.

Finally one of them decides that he wants to sleep NOW, so he begins to lay down on the filthy street of China right outside the club doors. I found this amusing, but this nothing too special.

Anyway, about a minute after we are trying to convince the guy to let us help him into a cab to bring him back to the hotel, a homeless midget walks buy and begins to ask for money. He is dressed in dirty ass clothes, smoking a cigarette, and wearing a huge grin on his face. When he notices the guy on the ground not getting up he immediately jumps on top of him and starts humping him and screaming nonsense into his ear.

All of us watching this are bursting with laughter. For a good 2 minutes we get a kick out and take multiple pictures to post on facebook and later humiliate this Scottish dude. After finally removing the midget from our friend’s ass, and getting rid of the crowd of onlookers that formed to watch this poor kid getting molested on the street we get the kid up on his feet. The only words that can come from my mouth are, “Welcome to China man. I hope you had a memorable first night.”

Chinese Business Insights from a Foreigner

I got my China Business Dinner cherry popped! So one of my friends asked me if I would do his family friend a favor. The family friend named “Li” is starting a handbag line and was having a dinner meeting with a potential distributor. Li wants to create a façade that he is handbags are very “western.” I was going to join them at dinner as Li’s head fashion designer.

Of course I have no design experience, but we created a whole back story ( I graduated from FIT, worked for Polo for 3 years, then moved to China this summer) and I even had my own business card! The best part was that Li’s potential business partner spoke zero English and I had to pretend I spoke very minimal Chinese. Li didn’t want to run the risk of him asking me too many questions and fucking up the business meeting.

. Li was accompanied by his wife, and the distributor was accompanied by his wife and another woman that worked for the man’s company. Upon sitting down at the seafood restaurant, the 2 men went to the backroom to order our meal for the night. I could see that Li’s wife was also an important figure in terms of the business dinner. She was responsible for engaging the 2 women in dialogue and making sure they were having a good time. The table was essentially divided between men and women.

Throughout the whole dinner I smile and look pretty. I throw in some random Chinese words like, “Gan Bei!” and the table roars with laughter. Essentially I play my part as the token white guy in China. I am pretending I don’t understand anything going on, but I was secretly paying very close attention. He was whispering to Li about my position and asking multiple questions about my what I was doing.

There was ZERO mention of business at the table. I assume some business was discussed when the 2 men went to the back to order because they were gone for roughly 10 minutes and I know it doesn’t take that long to order food. Both men were smoking voraciously and they took turns exchanging cigarettes and lighting each other’s cigarettes. I think it was a bonding-friendship thing.

What I learned was this night was that Chinese businessmen will go to extreme lengths to create a façade and develop relationships. Basically, the means justify the ends. Li was directly lying to this distributor, but as long as he never finds out its ok. I just wonder how far this little game of cat and mouse actually goes. Overall this was a very valuable experience and gave me insight into how locals conduct dinner with each other. Now if Chinese are willing to cheat other Chinese when money is on the table, I wonder how far these “white lies” go with foreigners?

Chinese Racism Towards Westerns

There has been a storm of posts in the China blogosphere about racism in China. A China Law Blog post does a good job of analyzing whether Westerns are racist towards China. I would have to agree with him that the majority of Westerns living in China are not racist but they do exude a sense of arrogance.

After playing around on YouTube today I found a great video of Russell Peters, and the use of the word “那个 .“
I cracked up for a few minutes, and then I also thought back to earlier this year around April when some Canadian woman found the color of her couch to be, “n*gger brown.” (http://buzzfeed.com/buzz/Racist_Translations_ ) Apparently it was a mistake made by a Chinese factory but it got me wondering about racist views of Chinese towards foreigners.

I thought back to a few weeks ago when I was hanging out in 1912 and met up with some friends. I pretty much knew everyone in the group except for 1 particular guy named John. Unlike most Chinese I meet, John was not friendly at all upon introduction. At the club we were all hanging out talking to pretty girls walking past our table, but I kept getting the death glare from this dude.

I asked my boy Kenny what his problem was and he said, “John doesn’t like foreigners.” I pressed him further on the issue and he said, “John thinks foreigners just come to China to have a comfortable lifestyle and take all the Chinese girls.” This immediately took me by surprise because all my friends know I am not the guy whose intentions are to steal Chinese women. Granted, within the next 20 years there are estimates of the population with an excess of 20 million men without a partner, but are Chinese guys this protective over their women now?

Kenny told me a story about how John guy got wasted one night and started a confrontation with another white guy who was talking to a Chinese girl. He broke a bottle at the guy’s table and threatened to kill him if he didn’t leave immediately. I’m sure the white dude almost shit his pants, but tonight I was not fearful of any drama because his boys were my boys.

This leads me back to my question about Chinese racism. Is there growing dissent amongst Chinese men towards foreigners? All of my experience would suggest otherwise, but this was my first taste of anti-western sentiment during my stay in China.

Chinese Dating from A random white guy.

I found a great Youtube video called Shower Scene: Asian dating rituals which chronicles a date of a random white, English teacher and a date with his Chinese girlfriend. I'm guessing it was taken in 北京 since they're eating Peking Duck and the girl's accent is northern.


真讨厌! Chinese relationships are awesome.

During the dinner, the white guy pans the camera to see the food and says she ordered it, I get to pay for it.

Of course you should pay for it, douchebag. The dinner probably cost less than 100 RMB. Don't pretend to be a "innocent" victim of your Angel. Do what any Chinese guy would do and pay for the dinner. Stop being so cheap with your money.

And who breaks up with a girl through text messages? Be a man.

That goes for the rest of you white guys in China too.

Transvestite playing with snakes and a 17 year old

A couple of nights ago, I was invited to go out with some of my Chinese friends. I know these guys through a few relatives. They are in their early 30s are all own their own companies.

So anyways, I arrive at the hotel and meet up with my friends. They had already been drinking for a couple of hours and were excited that I could meet up with them. We ride in an elevator and through a maze before finally sitting down near the performance area of the 夜总会. Since it was a weeknight, there was a sparse crowd. Out of the 30 people sitting in the area, just about all of them were men. All of the girls, with a couple of exceptions, were employees of the club "accompanying" the guys.

We have our own private room, but lets hang out here first. There's a very cool performance coming up soon. Without having to ask what kind of performance it was, I was quickly told that, a transvestite is going to come out and play with a snake.

They were not lying. After sitting down and having a beer, a he-she really did come out. The current girl, former guy was wearing a gold outfit that you would expect from a bad Bollywood movie. She had lipstick, make up and was rocking out everything.

After her initial hellos, she called up an audience member to participate. Some random guy was thrown up by his "friends" and was tormented for the next 20 minutes. This participation involved dancing together seductively, holding hands, smelling each other's necks, kissing on the cheek and spooning while standing. This was half disturbing and half amazing. I didnt know they had transvestites in China!!

So after this little skit, the he-she starts singing. She could hit both the low notes and the high notes...very versatile. On the second song, out came the snake. From my perspective, it seemed like a 8-9 feet long boa or garden snake. It was just hanging out while the he-she danced with it on her neck and arms to this indian-hip hop number. Quite a site. At one point doing the song, she walked around the crowd so that other people could touch it. From the expressions on their faces, people were definitely freaked the fuck out. Chinese people really dont like snakes.

So anyways, after the he-she gets off stage, our group of 4 heads to the private room. It was a dingly little place with bad 80s decoration, couches and lights. Yes, very romantic. Instead of singing a lot, we just looped some Chinese disco music while we chilled and played Chinese drinking games like liar's dice, 15/20 and others.

After a little bit, we were joined by some women who were in uniform. After initially not knowing what's going on, I was finally told that one of my friends was fucking a manager at the place. While he was hanging out with her, the manager brought a bunch of girls from her staff to entertain the rest of us.

So everyone was hanging out with their girl, chatting it up, drinking and hanging out, I was introduced to this really young-looking girl with a bratty attitude. She was being a little prick so I beat her 8 times straight at liar's dice and she had to drink a beer for compensation. She ended chugging it quickly, then going to the bathroom and throwing it up!! haha, bitch. After talking to this girl for a while longer, I finally found out that she was only 17.

What the hell are you doing here? Go back home to your mommy. She didnt comply with my demand and kept on hanging out and even flirted with me. Stop touching my leg. Seriously, go home.

After making fun of her age for a bit and probing her with different questions about sex, drinking and drugs, she finally left, probably to go to a new room and hit on some Chinese guy in his 50s.

All in all, everyone was happy at the end of the night. My bros were getting play with decently cute Chinese girls (although they all have girlfriends already... which is a different other story) while I got hit on by a 17 year old and watched a show with a transvestite and snake.

Hairy Chinese Pussy... Is there a Solution?

OK, so maybe I’m new to the sexual antics with Chinese girls but what is up with girls not shaving down there? In the US every girl I have ever had sex with was a white girl and they all had beautiful shaven pussies. I personally think there is nothing better than a fresh Brazilian wax.

I have been fucking this one girl in particular for a while now, and for some reason it just bothers me that there is so much hair down there. Actually when walking around the streets you will notice that some girls don’t shave their armpits either…thankfully I don’t have that problem.

She hasn’t said anything about me not eating her out, but I get freaked out at the idea of going down south and having to pick out pussy hair from my teeth! Maybe I’m just weirder than most guys, but I guess this is just my pet peeve.

I consider myself to be a well-kept guy…I appreciate hygiene. I don’t go to the extent of some guys I know and shave everything down there. “Dude, a tree looks bigger in the desert than in a jungle!” But I do take time to do weekly trimming.

I don’t know how much longer I can stand this. Would it be improper of me to ask this girl to do some trimming or am I being too uptight?

Where are the cute White Girls in China??

I have never hooked up with sooo many Asian girls in my life. Although it did happen from time to time during college, I always hooked up and dated white girls. I always lived in white neighborhoods, white high schools and college, so it was only natural to fuck white girls too. I never did have the Yellow Fever problem described in the famous YouTube clip either: (funny ass shit)



Hooking up with white girls in the US is one thing, but fucking them in China is a completely different story. The demographic for white girls here is just blah. I see and meet some decent looking western guys here (and no, i'm not gay), but cute girls are as hard to find as a black person in China.

Lets examine the variety of factors leading up to this talent drain:

1. Only a certain population of people from the US (or Europe) study Chinese. Middle schools and high schools usually only offer French, Spanish, and Latin. I am proud to say that Chinese will be offered in more and more school districts in the US soon. Only “special families”, whether they live in specific neighborhoods, they are rich enough to get their own tutor, or they are of Chinese decent, have Chinese training before college.
2. In college, only a limited number of non-Chinese learn the language. The people who do are usually somewhat weird.
3. College training in Chinese rarely advances a person to a degree where they are fluent in the language. This means it’s very hard for people to move to China after college for work in China. Recently, however, western companies moving into China are bringing more and more westerners with them.
4. Given the kinda weird and “the not hot” girls who actually do come to China (usually to teach English or something), most of them aren’t that cool. They were usually in the band during high school and in the dorky crowd in college.
5. Asian American girls who come to China from the US are usually really fucking religious. This means their prude and won’t do anything.
6. So given everything, there are very few cute girls that come to China. For those who do, they have to compete with the often, more slender, skinny and better-bodied Chinese girl. Yes, most white girls come to China and are the “fat girl.” That kind of defeats the purpose or hooking up… if you have to get the fat girl of the group.

Even though there are relatively few fuckable white girls here in China, I have made it my mission to get in the game. Yes, Chinese girls are fun… but nothing beats dating a white girl and walking around with her in China. That’s possibly soo much celeb fan-fare for me…not to mention introducing her to my Chinese relatives in China. My grandparents would flip!

So recently, I went to a party and met this girl named Mary. She is a brunette from New England who’s in China to teach English. I didn’t get to talk to her much at the party, but we all (15 of us) ended up going to the same bar afterwards.

At the bar, I was doing my thing with my wingmen... doing the usual rounds with different groups of Chinese girls. Before I knew it, I was sloshed out of my mind. At one point during the night, I was on the dance floor and finally bumped into Mary and our mutual friend. We danced a little bit.

Mary was definitely aggressive in her flirting. After the dancing, she got really close to me, put her arms around me and messaged my back. She also grabbed my ass multiple times. Woah. As the night came to a end, Mary left first. I said goodbye to her in a hallway near the exit of the bar.... and from my limited memory, I think we kissed.

The next morning, however, I didnt remember what happened (until my roommate told me). I also didnt remember what she looked like (another one of my drunken tendencies) until I went online to check my facebook account and her already-there friend request.

By looking through her pictures, I couldnt find anything that made her look cute, or showed off her body. (Because if she had a nice body, she would have atleast 1 or 2 party pics with a tight shirt on.) She was a 5.5 at best.... and now she gave me her number, started texting me and is hitting on me.

Last Wednesday, she invited me out to a bar with her friends. The bar was about 40 minutes away, and I told her I didnt want to go that far. She then said that I could totally stay with her and crash at her place. Fuck.

I dont know what to do. I'm getting hit on by a not-that-cute white girl. I dont want to alienate her because she could potentially be friends with cuter girls. I dont think I want to fuck her either.

What should I do?

Chinese Girls: Tattoo = Slutty

Last weekend I went over to the local western-bar with a lot of American friends. This bar was particularly popular with all of the expats in the area, as well as westernized Chinese girls. My wingmen and I ended up meeting a large group of Chinese girls sitting at a booth together. They had bought 3 bottles of different alcohol. With a little luck, we weezled our way into their group.

By night's end, I was taking one of them home, a 22 year old. She was a great dancer, cute and had an amazing body. More importantly, she really enjoyed sex.... and (from what I remember) the sex was AMAZING!

So anyways, we did our thing and finally got to bed at about 5am. When we finally wake up Sunday afternoon, I noticed something interesting. She had 4 tattoos. There was one on the back of her neck, another one on her right ankle, one on her lower back and a small one on her left wrist. When I saw them, I was really surprised. (I definitely get a little memory loss when i'm drinking a lot.)

Tattoos are looked down upon in Chinese culture and are not accepted by the older generations. They are very taboo. Even my parents said they would "disown" me if I ever considered getting on.

So anyways, when I asked her about them, she explained that even though having the tattoos made her relationship with her parents more strained, she thought that they expressed her personality and individuality. My friends that were at the bar with me all have tattoos. They dont really care what their parents think. They have the money and the personalities to get them.

When I listened to her, I realized what my new targets should be. As I've written before, it's sometimes hard to judge which Chinese girls will be traditional and PRUDE, and which ones would be open. It seems to me that the targets should be any (and every) girl with a tattoo.

From what my hookup revealed to me, her and all of her friends are all from decently wealthy families with a western background. They dont care too much about their parents and want to express their personalities. By getting a tattoo, they cross a huge line that redefines them as hip and new.

These "hip and new" girls are not only down with their tattoos, but down with their one night stands and giving BJs too. That's the demographic we need to be looking for.

So if you meet a Chinese girl (basically anywhere in the world), go for it. Hopefully she'll fully express herself with some uninhibited "hip and new" sex.

Anal Sex Illegal?

I was recently told that anal sex is illegal in China. I had anal sex with a girl a few weeks back. When I told the story to a good Chinese friend of mine, he was SHOCKED!! Oh my god. You can be arrested for that. Don't tell anyone else you did that!

He later also told me that possession of hardcore pornography is also illegal (which I already know).

What would they do to me anyways, I asked him.

They'll fucking lock you up. Be careful with this stuff. We're still not as open as the US!

Does anyone else know anything about this? I guess it's kind of the same as having oral sex in Mississippi or something. Crazy times.

Which are better at sex: Chinese or Chinese American girls?

Chinese girls vs. Chinese American girls.

A lot is always made between girls of different races and ethnicities.

As an “equal-opportunity employer”, I do not discriminate on the girls I find attractive, hook up with and eventually have sex with. So far, I’m basically missing black girls and Latino girls from my list.

My friends and I always talk about our exploits as well as basic comparisons between girls of different races, ethnicities, ect.

Do you like Chinese girls or white girls better? What about blonds? Indian girls or Latino? Who gives the best head? Who is freakier?

When living in the US, I had sex with 3 Chinese American girls. These girls were either born in the US or moved to the US since they were really young. Since then they have all lived and assimilated into American society. All of them rarely hook up with Asian guys, and lived in predominately white neighborhoods and went to mostly white schools in suburban USA.

In the past year in China, I’ve had sex with 3 Chinese girls. While they all lived and worked in the city in various professions, they all moved here recently and grew up in different parts of China. All are Chinese and had sex with me with the pretense that I was a Chinese guy who was born and raised in China.

Using my experience, I’ve tried to analyze, categorize and compare the hook-up experience of each, so we can answer the age-old question: Which are better: Chinese or Chinese American girls?

HOTNESS FACTOR

One of the best parts before hitting on a girl is checking them out. Tight tank tops and nice tits or short skirts with nice legs are essential before the juices get flowing. Chinese girls are known to have subtle features. Very small breasts, no hips, no ass are typical…and even if they do have some hips and ass, they’re the “aww, that’s a cute butt” kind. A lack of revealing style and makeup is also an issue. Their only strength are perfect and silky smooth legs.

CAs definitely have much better features. A lot of girls I’ve hooked up with have the nice, tight and perky C cups. Combine that with tight jeans and tank tops and we have a winner.

Big Edge: CAs

THE CHASE

Although college frat party-induced one night stands sometimes happen with CAs, they’re definitely the exception. For some reason, Asian girls in the US are hella religious…making it even more difficult to unlock their secrets. The prelude before sex with just about any typical American girl includes dates, movies, holding hands and meeting friends. Even when you get them in bed, the stubborn Base System comes into play.

Chinese girls don’t need to be wined/dined or talked to like CAs. Just be charming enough to disarm their initial wall and your golden. They really want to be “tricked” into kissing you. Sex afterwards is just a forgone conclusion.

Edge: Chinese

FOREPLAY

Although Chinese girls are easy to fuck, it’s hard for them to do not-fucking things. Chinese girls really have no agency in the sexual act. The girls I’ve been with have always been “tricked” into taking off their clothes or “tricked” into making out. Never is it the girl’s prerogative to initiate anything. They are shy to take off their bra (and some cover up their tits with their hair after the bra is off), and almost horrified when anything other than the penis goes near their vagina. Only after much convincing and repeated encouragement will they initiate.

I personally like sucking on a girl’s tits or playing with the clit, and CAs love to oblige. American culture has trained CAs to expect a guy to finger then or be kissed on the neck. I was even told to stop once so a girl could teach me a move she liked performed on her back and neck.

Edge: CAs

BJ

I had the best head of my life from a CA girl. Just ridiculous. It was the longest and most enjoyable 45 minutes of my life. Now I really do know what “porn star” head means. However, the other

Typically Chinese girls do NOT give head, and it is very difficult to find one that does. One of my past girlfriends had amazing lips and actually enjoyed giving BJs. Although she gave good effort, she just could give deep throat like the CAs can. Playing with the balls…now that’s just a lost art.

Big Edge: CAs

SEXUAL REPITORE

Who says Chinese girls can’t fuck. There must be a reason for the 1.4 billion Chinese people in the world. They are down with any and every position you can think of and are really fucking flexible. The last 2 girls I had sex with love being on top and riding me. That had perfect rhythm and cadence.

My CAs was a little timid. Maybe it’s the religious thing, or maybe they’re prude and uncomfortable, but 2/3 hated being on top of even doing doggy style. Who doesn’t like doggy?

Edge: Chinese

MOANING

Chinese girls have the same auditory level. Ehh, Ehh, Ehh, Ehh. The closer they get to orgasming, the more like they sound like they are crying. One look at their face and it really does look like they’re crying. CAs have been singers. They’ve woken up my roommate and disturbed the neighbors.

Slight Edge: CAs (unless you like crying, which I sometimes do)

FREAKINESS

Chinese girls are freaks (who are fascinated with porn). Even though it looks like they’re innocent, when they get into a bedroom, they’re surprisingly open. One of my last girlfriends made me go buy her a small vibrator and S&M restraints (with locks) on our 1 month anniversary. She arranged for us to go to a hotel for a night, put on some S&M porn, and fuck her like we were in the video. Crazy ass shit. CAs have nothing that could match that.

Edge: Chinese

X FACTOR

Chinese girls are like open sexual canvases. They are open to it, but don’t know too much about the positions, the techniques, ect. When they are with you, they are down with just about anything, even anal. Anal sex isn’t looked upon as anything. It’s just another form of sex in China. Hell yea.

I’ve had anal sex with CAs, but it was a definite effort to make it happen. Anal sex is known and has certain (painful and) undesirable perceptions. Just too bad.

Edge: Chinese

From my experience, sex with Chinese American girls is better than with Chinese girls. However, the gap between the two is smaller than I would have predicted a year ago. Chinese girls like sex, like boys and are sometimes really fucking freaky. They just don’t have the details worked out.

Let’s face it. Sex is good. Nothing beats fucking a girl doggy style while pulling her hair. That view is priceless. But the best thing about being with a Chinese girl is that their vaginas are tighter. You can definitely notice the difference. Tell that to your buddies when you next swap stories.

A Chinese Juggling Act

So recently I have been interested in 2 girls (the model and the socialite) and I’m debating whether I should just pick one so I can focus on a stable relationship with her, or begin the juggling act and ‘play’ with both girls at the same time.

I find both girls to be smart, attractive, funny, and wealthy but there is one catch…I have already slept with the socialite (so that’s guaranteed pussy), and the model remains a virgin. Now some of you might say go with a sure thing, but I’m a man, and men are hunters. I’m one of those guys who truly enjoys “the hunt” or “the chase” of a woman.

The hunt with the socialite is already over, but things are just beginning to get interesting with the model. Last night we went to a club with a big group of people, and after abruptly leaving without much of a goodbye, I was flooded with text messages today.

“Next time you should wait for me to get tipsy so things will be more interesting.” Messages like this make me go wild, for I can only imagine the possibilities of how things might play out.

I spoke to one of my local Chinese friends who has met both girls, and his advice was to go after both of them. I’ve yet to make up my mind, but I’m going on a week hiatus for travel so I’ll have time to think over things. We’ll see who sends more text messages ( a good measure for gauging interest from a girl).

One thing is clear, if I’m going to take on juggling 2 girls at the same time, I better start making more money. We’ll see if the circus comes to town next week…

A New Breed of Chinese Women

So I met this cute Chinese girl via Facebook recently, and yesterday while walking to lunch with Turtle I got a text message from the girl asking me if I was walking outside near some hotel wearing a red t-shirt and coincidentally enough I was. She randomly spotted me from the bus she was riding on, and after a few more text messages we planned on meeting up.

We traded messages back and forth, chatted on Skype every once in a while, but this was to be our first meeting. I knew from her Facebook profile that she was different from other girls. She was a part-time model and spoke many different languages. Her favorite TV shows and music were definitely western. She was def not your typical Chinese girl so I had no idea what to expect.

She met me at my apartment and although I began to speak Chinese with her, she replied in fluent English. It took me back for a minute, and even Turtle did not know what to say. He mentioned later that night, he felt weird because it was the first time he spoke in all English to a native Chinese person. This has NEVER happened before.

Anyway, after giving the grand tour of my apartment I asked her if she would help me buy some new things. I wanted to get a new futon covering, but she insisted on taking me to some place where she recently bought clothes. In China it is easy to tell who has money, and judging by this girl’s style, you knew off the bat she was not scared to spend. What took me by surprise was when she took me to a near condemned building that was selling clothes for the pennies.

I assumed after checking out my pad and then chatting about the latest fashion while walking around this dirty ass building we would go our separate ways. But she took me for another loop when she asked what I wanted to do next. I had no idea so she said “lets do something really Chinese and go drink tea.” We ended up chilling at a tea spot for almost 2 hours, discussing everything from the “cool kids” in high school, to religion. I was amazed at her grasp of the English language with some of the more complicated issues we discussed.

Again, after tea she asked me what I wanted to do. This time I was prepared and asked her if she had ever been go-karting. She was intrigued because she had never done been before, so I called up Turtle and we were off to the racetrack.

After finishing that we had a BBQ dinner and if I had not said I needed to go home, I question whether she would be sitting here now. On the way back home with Turtle we were discussing how an afternoon of meeting up real quick turned into almost an 8-hour affair. “She just kept asking what we were going to do next!” I told him.

Definitely the most interesting girl I have met in China thus far, and I have a feeling there will be more like her. I think I love this new breed of girl.

And no, she isnt slutty. She has just confirmed that she's a virgin. I dont know if I want to be her first.

Sex in China. What's the Deal?

Before moving to China, I always had the conception that Chinese girls were prude.

Maybe it was due to the puritanian society of the communist revolution.
Maybe it was the lack of sexuality in mainstream media or out in society.
Maybe it was the unrevealing school uniforms that everyone wears in public schools that deters sexuality of any sort.

Whatever it was, my preconceptions were here to stay.

In the past year since i've been here, i've learned a lot about the Chinese female... mostly all of which have tore down my inaccurate preconceptions.

Don't get me wrong. There are definitely a lot of girls who still abide by the "i'm not going to have sex until I get married" or "I think sex is yucky." However, from my experience, these girls are decreasing in number, giving way to a new breed of modern, sexually active young women.

I've had 1 night stands. I've had anal sex.

Sex in public? Yes.

What else can you ask for?

Above all, for all of my sexual conquests, I have never used my American passport or my non-existent white skin. I have always been the Chinese-looking, Chinese-speaking, Chinese American.

It's not that Chinese girls just want to fuck a foreigner.

They just want to fuck.

Hotel (VIP Service)Culture

There are a few things Guangdong province has plenty of…people, factories, and hotels. These aren’t the normal hotels you are thinking of, but hotbeds for prostitution activity. As a foreigner, you can be expected to be a target of prostitutes at the bar but I avoid these women at all costs, and they are looked down upon from all sides of society.

One thing I have found to be more acceptable however, is to go south to one of the hotels in Dongguan and pay for their “service.” You may ask, what’s the difference between paying a girl at the bar versus going to a hotel and paying for a girl. The answer I got was…professionalism.

I have a circle of local Cantonese friends, and they have all grown up with this “hotel culture” and find it acceptable. These particular friends all come from respectable families, work at some of the biggest companies in China, would never smoke weed (I’ve asked them multiple times), yet believe there is nothing wrong with going to these hotels and enjoying a few hours of debauchery.

Also, it should be noted that out of all my Chinese friends, it is only the local Cantonese guys that participate in this activity. My previous roommate is from Sichuan province, and when I asked him would he ever go to a hotel for some “special service” he said that he hates this type of activity, and he would NEVER pay for a woman. I asked a few of my other friends who come from the North, and their response was very similar.

Anyway, so I was at dinner the other night with some of these guys, and they are in the process of telling me about one of the hotel excursions they recently went on. “You are seated in a private room and given a menu, where they have a list of all the services they offer. It’s so professional!”

The word they kept emphasizing was “professional” because they were so impressed with the level of service. (According to numerous reports from McKinsey, the service industry is going to have the most growth in the near future for China.) My friends added that you can basically buy a girl for about 800RMB and do just about anything you want to her. This does not include the price of the hotel room that usually costs about 200 or 250RMB. So total spent for the evening is roughly 1,000RMB.

I assume the operation works like this: The hotel management wants to “flip” hotel rooms quickly and capitalize on the fact that the rooms will only be in use for a few hours. They are flipping hotel rooms for 250 a pop all day long and police don’t disrupt the operation because many of them are customers themselves or the hotel is protected by the mafia.

The girls can earn a lot of money by Chinese standards because 800RMB for a few hours of work is very good for them, especially considering that the majority of them girls are from the countryside.

The customers are left happy because they got their sexual urges fulfilled and when you go with a group of friends I assume there is some camaraderie involved as well. These guys will NEVER go to the hotel alone…it is very much a group activity.

After giving me all the details about what happened with each girl, they began asking if I would accompany them on their next conquest. With a wave of peer pressure demanding me to join them, I was able to dodge a bullet by refusing. My excuse...if they can’t smoke weed with me, I couldn’t join them at the hotel.

I find this whole hotel culture to be very fascinating, but I really have no interest in paying for sex; I just better find another excuse to not go with them when I finally convince them to smoke their first joint.

US v. China: Sex Base System

It's one of those assumptions that is embedded in you since middle school: The Hooking up Base system.

If you don't remember (or your too old to remember), it goes something like this.

When you hook up with a girl, you can easily qualify and determine how far you got by the baseball bases analogy.

1st Base: Kissing, a little bit of touching, but basically anything kissing based.
2nd Base: Get all of the girl's clothes off except for her panties.
3rd Base: Oral/BJ.
Home: Sex.

There might be slight variations in what each base is defined as, but its primarily the same. And the most important part is that everyone knows it.

It is usually a hard feat to hit a home run, no matter the sport, but its particularly hard in the hooking up game. Although it does happen, usually only the best players can swing like ARod.

In reality, though, what is the reason for these bases and why is sex sooo hard to achieve? I would argue that it is due to the Judeo/Christian cultural base in the US and the importance and "up on a pedestal" stature that sex has with people. Or it might be that Americans are the prudes as described in Eurotrip...and the ones who have the least sex (as described in this Men's Health article).

In China, things are a little different. There is no underlying religion that makes sex something other than sex and there is no real base system. The only prelude for a sex with a Chinese girl is this...

The first Kiss.

The theory goes like this. If you can get a Chinese girl to kiss you, you can have sex with her. This has worked well for me and many of my entourage. Let me repeat.

If you can get a Chinese girl to kiss you, you can have sex with her.

The base system doesn't exist in China. No girls state that they're only going to go to 2nd base or 3rd base. If your kissing in your room, than it's game on.

For all of the Casanovas out there who think you can kiss any and every girl out there, think again. It is actually very difficult to get a Chinese girl to kiss you. They usually don't do it easily and never in public. Maybe the conception of intimacy is the same for kissing and sex.

So in China, this is the real game. Don't think about the Barry Bonds home run. Just get that single. When your on base, the defense basically plays defensive indifference.

Catching the Chinese Girl "Fever"

As a young, white male experiencing the exploding urban nightlife scene in China, you can imagine the possibilities thrown your way each weekend. I have been living in China for 13 months, and up until last week I have resisted the urge to hookup with a native Chinese woman. Don’t get me wrong, I think Chinese women are beautiful in their own light, but I have a passion for blond hair and blued eyed girls…something that is quite rare in a country of 1.3 billion. Also, I have been on and off with my ex-girlfriend who still resides in the U.S. so I had some sense of loyalty towards her.

You cannot imagine the pressures a young white male with blond hair, faces in terms of living up to the sexual standards native Chinese men have for me. The first thing asked when I meet a Chinese guy is, “How many girlfriends do you have?” They expect meet to be some modern Casanova, railing a different Chinese girl every night. I’m sure you can imagine the disapproving look on their face when I tell them I have a girlfriend in the U.S. and that I don’t have any Chinese girlfriends.

Anyway, the pressures of quitting my job, and moving to a new apartment, had taken its toll and I decided enough was enough…I needed sexual release! I met a pretty young girl through a friend a few months ago, and even though she lived in a neighboring city, we became friends by keeping in touch via MSN and text messages. She recently came to visit some friends so I took this opportunity to work on my “Chinese game” and see what the night would hold in store. Needless to say I was cock-blocked at the end of the night by one of her friends who refused to let her come home with me. It was a disheartening experience, but I soon learned I had it made.

The following week I am talking with some of my Chinese friends and the topic of sex comes up. It was mutual agreement that if you can kiss a Chinese girl, you can fuck her. With this enlightenment in toe, I quickly take action and make plans to visit the girl the following weekend. We make plans to meet at a local park and then go clubbing at night.

The mood at the park was light and flirty, but no obvious clues that she had any significant interest. With Turtle sending me text messages about my progress, I was scared I would not have anything to report back. Things got more interesting when after buying multiple bottles of vodka for everyone; I decided to make my move when I coincidentally ran into her at the bathroom. I yanked her in, which I’m sure she wasn’t expecting and started hooking up in a dingy 厕所 ala New York City style. After she made sure all of her friend were safe in taxi’s she prompted me in a waiting taxi to go back to my hotel room. Immediately the clothes came flying off, and I was placed in command of the situation. Being as this was my first experience with a Chinese girl, I wasn’t sure what I could get away with. Could I smack her ass or pull her hair without her getting upset? I played it pretty conservatively and decided I would test the limits next time.

Now the interesting part about all of this is how she acts towards me now that we have had sex. The following day she would grab my hand, kiss me in public, and very much act like we were dating. A few text messages per week have transgressed into multiple text messages per day. She even asked for me to accompany her on a business trip to a different province.

Now my question is, did I unknowingly just sleep my way into a relationship? Do Chinese Girls expect that after they have sex?